Tummies & Tantrums

We've been dealing a lot with this blog's title subjects lately. And, as you can imagine, not in a good way.

For fear of spreading more of the evil, I'm going to say little about the tummy woes we endured. Suffice it to say that Iris had a tummy bug that took her nearly 5 full days from which to recover. Nick and Felix each had their own bouts. I, miraculously, escaped (cue me getting it any second now).

Boy howdy, whoever introduced Iris to tantrums, I'd like a word with you. They may have started before, but they sure gained steam after Iris was sick. On her first day back to a normal routine after the tummy bug, she had 3 epic tantrums lasting a total of 1.5 hours. All based on some minor thing (I told her it was time to get ready for daycare / I wouldn't let her go down the slide one more time / it was time for bed). Last week, I dealt with getting her rigid, screaming little body into her car seat - all because I gave her a mint that SHE DIDN'T TAKE OUT OF THE PACKET HERSELF (note: she threw the tantrum instead of asking me if she could do it). I'm a terrible parent. There, I said it. It's moments like these that make me repeat my parenting mantra: it's just a phase... it's just a phase...

Nick's grandpa on his mom's side passed away last week. Nick and I went up to the funeral today. Nick gave a killer eulogy (figuratively speaking).

There. Bad over. And now, on to the good! We signed Felix up for rec soccer, which he'll play in May (he's on the Beetles). He's excited to give it a try. Look at that game face! This is the summer we'll have him try soccer and T-ball, then see what he'd like to keep playing next year. Felix also lost his first tooth! It happened when the kids were left with a sitter, so we couldn't make a big deal about it. :o( But he was very proud. He had a shark tooth for over a month, so the tooth was loose for a while. And it's not too jarring now, because the big tooth has already grown in so far. He also had his first school program. His classes sang three songs about farm life. He looked so nervous!

First lost tooth

Felix is 2nd row on the right

More good: I've been thinking about donating my hair to create wigs for women with cancer for a while. It got to the point where my hair was finally long enough and I desperately needed a haircut, so I made the cut last week. I chose to send my locks to the Pantene Beautiful Lengths program. Win-win! I'm getting used to the new look, but it was amusing to get double-takes and compliments my first day back in the office. Although I'm being asked for my ID again to buy liquor... Yay?

Felix: 5.5 yrs & Iris: 2.5 yrs

Springing Up

Spring has finally decided to make an appearance recently. We've emerged from our hibernation and rediscovered the outdoors thanks to some lovely weather. And, when we've been inside, we've been very happy Badger fans.

So proud!

First off, Felix! He's got a shark tooth that hasn't dislodged the baby tooth in front. For the squeamish, I'll withhold a photo, but it does look rather funny. I took the week off to stay home with him over spring break. He's been a good sport, enduring a shopping trip to Madison with minimal irritation. Yesterday, he decided he wanted the training wheels off his bike. I ran behind him for about 20 feet before letting go... and he was gone! He has to learn his limitations, though; he tried to do too much and ended up falling off his bike twice and scraping up his elbows.

Iris is showing her tomboy colors. I didn't think she'd really get much use out of the playset while she was so little, but she has proven me wrong (which you can see in the video below). She's such a silly chatterbox most of the time. She likes to "hide in the vegetable patch" (sit among the grocery bags when we leave the store). She had a playdate with her daycare buddy a couple weekends ago. So much high-pitched chatter! Oh, it's nearly impossible to get a non-blurry picture of Iris.



We hope you have a Happy Easter! Go Badgers!

Felix: 5.5 yrs & Iris: 2.5 yrs

Still Winter

​It dawned on me that I hadn't done an entry in a while. Frankly, not much has been going on in our little world lately. Lots of staying inside, watching Thomas and Friends, waiting for Spring. ​

Nick's legal work has been picking up lately, much to our happiness. I've been settling more comfortably into my job as well. It's going to get crazy for me as soon as construction season starts, so I'm enjoying the calm before the storm. 

Nick and I did take a little get-away mid-February, heading to Milwaukee for the Alton Brown Live! show. We bid adieu to the kids, leaving them with my folks and enjoyed all the the things that come with not having the kids along. Adult conversation! Not having to hand out snacks or break up fights every 2 minutes! Sleeping in! (gosh, if that doesn't paint a vivid picture of our life...) While the frigid temperatures left something to be desire (that something being at least 30 degrees), the show was fantastic and we had a fabulous dinner to start. Scallops. Old Fashioneds. Mmmm. The next day, we had a delicious Irish brunch with an old friend. Good stuff! Anyway, it was great and something we hope to be able to do more often now.

We've also been enjoying curling again. If you have the opportunity, try it. It's nerdy chess on ice and a lot more fun than that makes it sound. Sweep HARD!

Felix has been behaving better lately, and that's been a relief. He was Star Student of his class the last week of February. Each child has a week where they get to share information about themselves and be line leader and get other special privileges. For Felix's Special Share day, I came to his class, brought a special treat and shared his favorite book about trains. The kids were very much into one-upping each other and showing off to me. I went out to recess with the class and ate lunch with Felix in the cafeteria. Mmm, fish sticks! That was a fun day for both of us.

Iris has gone the other way. Suddenly, my happy, obedient, "of course!" little girl has turned into a my-way-or-the-highway Miss Independence. It's starting to be a struggle getting her to do the smallest instruction. "Please take this." (ignore). "Iris, can you come here?" (ignore). "Let me help you with that." "NOOO! (tantrum)". What happened?! She has also been waking up way too early. At least she's now best buddies again with her daycare friend, and can't wait to show off to her. And we're trying to get her interested in potty training again. Maybe it's just too much at once. She is still completely obsessed with playing with Thomas stuff at home.

Felix: 5.5 yrs & Iris: 2.5 yrs

New Year's Eves

When we had our roomie reunion on New Year's Eve in Madison, we decided to recreate a picture we took when we were all undergrads, back in 2001. So much has changed in 13 years!

Roomies, 12/31/2001
(minus Anne, taking the picture)

Roomies, 12/31/2014
(standing in the wrong order - oops!)

Plus most of the changes in our lives. :o)
(Plus two spouses, two friends, four of five kids and one dog)

Welcome 2015

2014 was one roller-coaster of a year for us. The short, sorry version: Nick lost his job, found a better one, we moved to Rapids from Madison, and Felix started Kindergarten.

And now picking up from the last post, Christmas this year was a very nice time. We spent Christmas Eve with my family. We did our family Christmas the following morning, before Nick’s parents joined us for the afternoon.

Between Christmas and New Year’s, I was finally able to take some time off during Christmas with both kids home. New Year’s was a time of catching up with friends for us all. We got together with one of Felix’s former daycare friends and his family on NYE in Madison. The kids had several hours to play – I hope we’re able to continue doing that so they stay close! That afternoon, it was a roomie reunion! The last time all of us former roommates got together was at our wedding! That was 6.5 years ago. And now, we are mostly far-flung (from Madison to Singapore, Milwaukee to Minnesota), so it was fantastic to get everyone together. The only person missing of the friends and additions was one couple’s daughter. It was a lovely time for which even the kids were fairly well-behaved. Alas, we had to leave early, because we were spending the night in Platteville. But getting there, we got to catch up with Nick’s best bud and we got to meet their new baby as well! The following day, the four big kids played together a lot. We watched the first half of the Badgers’ bowl game, then headed back on the road to go home. Lots of silent cheering in the car, and not so silent celebrating when the Badgers won!

Hmm. Missing some roomies...

And so we begin 2015. I hope the upward trend continues for us, and that you have a fantastic year as well!

Felix: 5 yrs & Iris: 2 yrs

Christmas, Christmas Time is Here

Now with that earworm planted firmly in your head...

It was beginning to look a lot like Christmas... back in early November. After the mid-December, super-foggy warming, there's not a lot of snow left on the ground anymore. That's okay. The milder temps have allowed us to get outside more with the kids, instead of having them cooped up inside.

This year we started early on Christmas (buying our new space-saving tree back in early November), but it's taken a while to get into the Christmas spirit. I speak for myself, because Felix has been gung-ho about Christmas ever since the air turned colder. He's been busy making notes and drawings for Santa. We've also been debating if the mall Santas are the real deal, helpers or elves. Felix insists they're elves... who look like Santa.

We've gotten some improvement out of the kids lately. The fuzzy jar has inspired better behavior and habits out of both. The problem is remember to give them the fuzzies right away for their good deeds. They've been earning small suckers with each full jar. And when they've been having a rough day, that's what a Tom & Jerry is for, right?

Speaking of seasonal alcoholic beverages, we just got to try our latest batch of homebrew (an attempt to replicate Magic Hat #9) last weekend. Mmmm. And we started a raspberry red ale. Double mmm (I hope). We got our beer kit last Christmas and have been able to make 8 batches. The red ale is #9.

One quick public service announcement - please turn on your headlights when the visibility is low (dusk, dawn, foggy, rainy, snowy, etc.). Heck, turn them on always! I don't know if there's something in the water up here, but the number of people that neglect to do that is astonishing. You in the gray car on a super foggy day - I appreciate your faith in my eyesight. So yeah. Lights on and buckle up!

Felix: 5 yrs & Iris: 2 yrs

T-Time

When things go certain ways, it's important to remember all the things for which you're thankful. And it hasn't been an easy few weeks for us. Some backstory...

As you may recall, Felix's transition to Kindergarten hasn't been the smoothest. He's gotten better about some of his physicality issues with other kids. But he's got room for improvement in other social areas. We had his first parent-teacher conference in the middle of November. His teacher suggested we all meet together with his guidance counselor (so we can be consistent with him throughout the day), and that we take him to the doctor to see if there is a physical reason for his recent spate of potty accidents. During the latter, Felix got a belly X-ray and it was determined that he was full of sh!t. Literally. Some medicine has been helpful in that area, and the meeting we had gave us some direction and gave us some hope that aren't completely out of whack parenting. We're trying the marble jar approach (or in our house, a fuzzy ball jar) to encourage better behavior from both kids.

How do you deal with a 2-year-old who doesn't want to be someone's friend? In Iris's class, there's a cute little girl who is very polite, says good morning, and wants to be Iris's friend. The teachers tell me they've been best friends and play together during the day. In the past few weeks, Iris has said, "I don't want to be M's friend anymore." She has no response when I ask why. On 12/3, M was being dropped off at the same time. Iris point-blank told her "don't say [talk] to me." Cue a talk about how we are friends and nice with everyone. I don't want her picking and choosing at 2, especially when the only thing that might be upsetting Iris is that this girl is potty training quicker than her (well, M is two months older, after all). Ugh. I expected some drama having a girl, but at 2?? Her teacher tells me it's a control thing and that they play together well during the day. Time will tell...

So, we were very thankful to have time with family over Thanksgiving. We had kid-crazy meals with each set of grandparents. And thankful that the crazy early-winter weather we've had this year didn't hinder our travel plans. And for "cheap" gas - $2.79!

This year, I'm especially thankful for family, friends old and new, the opportunities that have come with relocation, and the knowledge that this is just a phase that will end eventually. Right...?

Felix: 5 yrs & Iris: 2 yrs