Sunday, February 28, 2021

Into 2021

I was just looking back on my last post, thinking it would be a good time for an update, since we're now two full months into 2021. The good and bad tale of the tape:

  • We had some gorgeous freezing fog at the beginning of January (yay!).
  • I watched (via refreshing the Washington Post website) with horror and disgust the insurrection by Trump supporters on the Capitol on January 6th (boo!) and the thankfully uneventful inauguration of our 46th president (yay!).
  • We watched the Packers season end so close to the Super Bowl (boo!).
  • We enjoyed our first get-together with friends for the first time since July (yay!), outdoors on a frigid, windy night (boo!).
  • We've had my parents over for a brief, masked visit (still strange, but yay!).
  • We've trying to deal with the cabin fever that has come with too many days indoors and together (thanks, 10-day-long polar vortex, for heaping on) (boo!), but we have a plan to take a little trip up north during spring break and go looking for springtime waterfalls (yay!).
  • Both kids are still doing well with their school work (yay!), although Iris's days typically end an hour and a half after they start. It's not easy keeping her busy and I end up yelling at her to clean up her myriad messes (boo!). We are planning on having them return to in-person school next year (yay?).
  • The kids are all signed up to play ball again this summer and we've got our fingers crossed that the season(s) will go as planned (yay!).
  • My hair is long enough to put into a bun since I haven't gotten a haircut since October 2019. Nick has a goatee as of this morning, partially shaving for the first time in five years. (I feel like I'm scraping the bottom of the barrel with these ones...) 

So, that's it. That's what's been different for us as we continue to tread water and ride out this pandemic.

I'm hoping that the next few months have more yays than boos (although there's likely to be plenty of booze...)! In the meantime, here is the new wall art I've created for us (I'm quite proud of this one):

Awesome things: What We Do In The Shadows (both TV show and movie - so late to the party!)

Friday, January 1, 2021

Goodbye 2020

It's time to say goodbye to 2020 and hello to the new year, whatever it may bring us. Since summer wrapped up, we've experienced a strange blend of new and mundane. You may have read about some of it in our 2020 Holiday Card. To quote Inigo Montoya, "Let me explain. No, there is too much. Let me sum up."

We started fall navigating the newness of the kids' virtual curricula and attempting to fill a school day's worth of time. (I'm chronicling our experiences separately here.) I think we've settled into something that works, since it lets me concentrate on my job during the day, with occasional check-ins with the kids. Iris still gets through her stuff too quickly, and I have to redirect her toward "school stuff" occasionally. Same old, same old by now. Same wake-up time, same views, same irritations (hence the "mundane").

Our newest family excitement has been Nick starting his own law firm in November. The pieces fell into place and the time felt right. It's been awkward trying to get things done during a pandemic, but done they are and he is open for business.

We let Iris join the local Y's swim team late this fall. They had the covid precautions in place to make us feel comfortable with the situation, and it allows her to interact with other people and puts her endless supply of energy to good use. We had the opportunity to see her "race" for the first time at an intra-team time trial last Sunday (with a masked, socially distanced, close-family-only audience). Despite being among the youngest, she's pretty speedy and clearly has some natural talent.


We also decided to shake things up with the holidays. Thanksgiving was spent alone at home, with video chats with family (with varying levels of technical difficulties).


We decided to do family presents on the Winter Solstice instead of Christmas morning. We had a nice family dinner, gave gifts (the kids picked out and bought their own presents for each other - so proud!), and played a family game. I've long felt that the kids haven't truly appreciated their presents when they get so many from us and grandparents during three events over two days. I think this is a tradition I'd like to build on next year. This was the first year that we included Felix on a view of our traditional Christmastime movie, Stalag 17. We've been watching it for 10+ years and learn something new each time. 

The gifts for each other were a hit.

While we couldn't go to any sporting events this year, we could at least be present in one way at Badger games:


We quietly bid 2020 goodbye, staying up until 11 watching Pixar movies before the ball drop. Nick & I felt a blackberry merlot was more appropriate than anything bubbly: a locally made wine, dark with a hint of sweetness (seeing as we had some good amidst the gloom and didn't go anywhere...). We'll save the foreign bubbles for tonight, to encourage 2021 to be a good year. 🍾

What we're looking forward to:

  • Cara: getting vaccinated against covid, the next presidency, spending time with people in person, summer ball, traveling again, finishing my Spanish Duolingo course (halfway done!). 
  • Nick: echoes many of Cara's sentiments, but includes getting his business going, having baseball/softball seasons for the kids, having a drink with a friend occasionally. 
  • Felix: the vaccine being out and being able to socialize safely, being able to go back to school and be with friends.
  • Iris: "Getting over with this whole year, because this year has kinda been a mess." 
Awesome things: Vaccines! (and science!), virtual meeting platforms that work, the return of the Great British Baking Shown, A.P. Bio, democracy, The Joy of Painting channel (the soothing balm this experience needs), the occasional sporting event on TV.

Sunday, December 13, 2020

2020 Holiday Card


Welp. 2020 has been quite the year. Nick and Cara started the year in Pasadena, CA, where we watched the Badgers lose the Rose Bowl (alas!). March 12th was our last "old normal" day. Starting Friday the 13th, we've been heeding all covid-19 pandemic-related best practices (it's social-distancing day 275 for us today). The kids finished their school year virtually, then spent the summer weekdays outside at the local Y Camp. No baseball/softball this year, but the kids (and us) were able to get out and golf a fair bit. Felix turned 11 in July and Iris turned 8 at the end of August.

This fall has seen Cara continue to telework (which she'll be doing for several months of 2021 as well), so we pulled the kids out of their normal schools and put them into the district's virtual school program. Cara is chronicling the experience here. Our biggest change is that Nick started his own law firm in town and we bought the building in which he opened shop, all in one fell swoop. He's excited to be able to have control and grow his business. 

We're looking forward to a bright 2021, though you may not see much of us until either we're vaccinated or the virus peters out. For next year, we wish your hopes are fulfilled and your fears are assuaged, and we'll get though this all together. 

With love,

The Abts Family



Wednesday, September 9, 2020

Our Virtual School Year

We're in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic that started about six months ago in the US. Since this year will be unlike any we've ever had (for us personally and for the kids), I wanted to keep a record of it. Backstory: The closure of schools on 3/16/20 had us doing virtual schooling for the remainder of that school year. It was understandably lacking, since everything happened so quickly. As the pandemic continued, we started to hear more about what the school district was planning for the start of the 2020/21 year. We didn’t like our school district’s initial plans of full-time school for all kids with no masks required and, to paraphrase, "just don’t send your kids if they’re sick" (because people do that regardless). The virtual program was an option in the district, so we just had the kids switch to this "school." This way, when schools inevitably shut down, we’ll have kept our kids away from virus and they’ll have a more challenging, consistent online curriculum instead of what they had at the end of the school year. (The school district has changed to mandate masks and have other rules in place, but too little too late for us.) I’m trying to look at it as an adventure, since I’m the one who will be home with them full-time.

So, here we go...

Day 0 (Aug 31): I had kids make school day schedules and clean off their desks, and we learned how to use the online program together. Iris is certain she can get her assignments done by Thursday PM to have Friday off. Felix thinks by Friday lunchtime. Iris also is going to learn German on Duolingo and started her first lesson.

Day 1 (Sept 1): The day got off to a good start with first-day pictures plus a few bonus "in school" (aka, at their desks) pictures. The kids logged in to the program, and got going on their assignments. I had to get involved a few times as they learned how the assignments and program work. I got to do a bit more teaching than I thought as both had difficulty understanding latitude and longitude. They learned the program isn't forgiving if extra characters are used in the answers... It also seems like they're ahead of the game, since I got an email telling us to hold tight, things would be ready by the end of the year (we already have our login info, so we just got going). Iris is already trying to work in more "specials" time (gym, art, music). I'm fine with that as long as her assignments are being completed on time.

Day 3 (Sept 3): Iris finished her assignments and projects that were due this week by noon today. I helped explain a few, but she got them all turned in. Felix expects to be done by this afternoon. I guess they'll be free tomorrow... The program we're using gives due dates, but I got an email from Felix's teacher: "I am writing to reassure you that at this point you don't need to worry about due dates." Sorry, no, I'm still going to have the kids work toward *something* in each subject, because they'll be bored and annoying each other otherwise.

Day 6 (Sept 9): We made it through the first week and celebrated with the purchase of two new "class pets." Everyone has their own names for them. Felix calls them Fuego and Aqua. Iris: Mars and Neptune. I say One Fish, Two Fish. Nick just shakes his head. I'm starting to get us into the routine of having the kids check with me before they start on projects so I can help them understand the requirements. Iris finished her week's work yesterday... I've told both they need to fill six hours with "school stuff" (e.g., assignments, projects, Duolingo, typing, chapter books, Clever, art, physical activity, etc.). We'll see how long I stick to that request.

Day 20 (Sept 30): The kids had their first in-person school day. They'll be going every other Wednesday through the end of the 2020 (at least) with their cohort. Each kid reported a great day, which is not surprising, since it consisted mostly of their "specials" (gym, art, music). Each said they followed the COVID protocols, wearing their masks (including their new school-provided mask) all day. Iris was excited to report that lunch came to them. With six kids other kids in each of their classes, I feel comfortable that there won't be excessive interaction and we can keep them safe. On the whole, things have gone well so far with the virtual school stuff. Iris asks for help on her quizzes and I try to get her to think about her answers instead of just giving them to her. Her assignments aren't keeping her very busy, so I ask her to do handwriting, typing, German to fill her hours. Felix is keeping busy and now has weekly virtual check-in meetings with his teacher.

Day 21 (Oct 1): We found out the hard way that the kids shouldn't wait until the day a project is due to do it. I think this picture sums up Iris's feelings about doing the seven required map elements with my help and direction (after I traced the basemap on my monitor because we don't have a working printer at home). Yes, those are two fat teardrops making new lakes in New York. Sigh. She does, however, need to learn to not get frustrated in the face of a list of tasks. 

Day 25 (Oct 7): Felix suddenly had a bunch of assignments show up as overdue late last week, so he worked very hard all weekend and Monday to catch up. This concerned us, given how diligently he's been working. Apparently, his teacher made a change to the software that forces them to go a little faster. Hmm. I'm having the opposite difficulty with Iris. She's underworked, and now twice this week I've had to reprimand her for playing on apps or watching idiotic YouTube videos when she's supposed to be learning. Argh!

Day 47 (Nov 9): We've done over two full months now. After the week Felix took it easy and had to catch up, I've been updating a spreadsheet with all of his assignments for the week and what he should be working on each day. He checks it, and marks the date he gets things done. It helps us both. Last week, I had both working on difficult assignments in my office with me during work hours. So much togetherness! Iris has started swim team, going to the Y for practice three days a week. That has helped put some of her extra energy to use. I had an important meeting this morning, and my extra effort to prep the kids to NOT BOTHER ME OR EACH OTHER FROM 8 TO 9 paid off, because they didn't. Hooray!

Day 65 (Dec 8): My frustration with Iris has reached a boiling point. I made her a schedule to make sure she's hitting all the other school-type stuff she should be working on during the day, with the goal of having to need fewer check-ins with her through the day. She's been doing "experiments" and other things that have resulted in messes or damaged stuff like paint on carpets. That worked, briefly. Then I found last night that she climbed up high to reach something she didn't need. (Current house rule is that if you have to climb to get it, you have to ask.) I was furious that she 1) climbed nearly to the ceiling in the kitchen and could have fallen, and 2) she lied to me about it. I took her phone, her bin of toys and her evening gingerbread cookie as punishment. Not sure when she'll get them back... Ugh. I have also had to get equally creative to block all the ways the kids have found to watch YouTube. Just so this isn't all a downer entry, both kids are doing well in their assignments. 

Day 95 (Feb 1): We're on the other side of 2020 now, but it's going about the same. The kids enjoyed their 10-day "winter break" (though we went nowhere). Both kids are continuing to do well with their online curriculum. We had a virtual portfolio conference in early January, where we were told the kids are doing well with their work (had an inkling already, since I go into their sites to check their progress regularly). This semester, they're going to in-person school weekly, instead of biweekly. Iris continues to fly through her work, resulting in too much spare time in which she makes big mess of her room and then gets annoyed when I tell her to clean it up (repeat ad nauseum). Seriously, is "trash blindness" a thing? We're tentatively starting to make plans for next school year, by when we'll hopefully be vaccinated and able to send the kids back to regular school.

Day 105 (Feb 15): The rest of the school district has off because of cold weather, but the kids don't get a break with virtual school. It's 9:30 am, and Iris finished all of her assignments already in order to go outside and play (despite my warnings about the cold and that she can't go into her friend's house). Felix, on the other hand, has 7 assignments due, hasn't started yet, and has a one-hour webinar beginning in 30 minutes. Two different kids, two different sets of frustrations. 

Day 134 (Apr 6): We made it to spring break and are now into the home stretch. Two more months of virtual school to go. It's been challenging, but we still feel it was the best decision for our family. Will we continue next year? Nope. But both kids have done well with all of their assignments and dealing with the unique nature of school this year. It's been good that they've been going once a week this semester, so they can ease back into full-time school next fall.

Day 151 (Apr 29): The kids must be over the hump of difficult work or they've gotten so used to it that they are able to complete assignments even faster. That has led to both kids being done with "school" by the early afternoon and asking to play Minecraft together. Yes, but... rooms need to be picked up and no fighting/whining. I'm trying to nudge them towards getting additional work done, so they can be done full days ahead of the last school day. If they don't want to do that, there are 25 more days to go.

Day 173 (June 1): And we have one done early! Iris finished up half her final exams last Friday and the other half today, so she is done (and I took her comparison pictures below). Felix is still hard at work studying for his finals. I've printed off what feels like a full ream of paper getting him set with all his past quizzes and exams. I have to hand it to him - the amount of effort he's put in is what would be expected for college courses, let alone 6th grade. Both kids have had more "free time" during this last month, as it's been mostly reviews in many of their subjects. Hence a new rule for basement TV/Xbox/Wii usage: rooms must be clean before they can get the remotes from me. Devious? Yes. Effective? Hell yes. 


Day 175 (June 3): And now Felix is done! He spent yesterday morning doing his science (100%!) and history/geography final tests, and took 3.5 hours to take his math final in the afternoon. This morning, he asked to take his language arts final in my office, at my desk, next to me. So, from 9 to 11:30, he took his 50-question Language Arts test. I tried to ignore him as to not give away answers. But he finished, and played a rather fraught session Minecraft afterward with Iris (argh...).


Final thoughts: both kids got 91-96% in all of their courses, which is fantastic. We knew they could do the online coursework and do it well, and the whole experience has added a new skill set for each kid. Felix now has a taste of what it's like to study for and take final exams, something he may not have to do again until college. Iris has learned to be self-directed and motivated (even if her motivation is to get her work done early so she can spend the rest of the day as she pleases). 

Once upon a time, I entertained brief fantasies of being a stay-at-home mom, but it was never our intention to home-school the kids. Then again, this pandemic was not anything that we were anticipating, either. I'm glad I had so much more time with the kids, challenging as it was at times, and next year they'll be returning to in-person school. I don't know what the future holds, but I'd like to think we're battle-tested if we ever need to do this again. :o)

Felix: 11 yrs & Iris: 8 yrs

Sunday, August 30, 2020

The Summer that Was(n't)

Well, the (hopefully one and only) Summer of COVID is at an end.

Updates:

  • The kids finished up their summer of Y Camp. It was nice to have that open and available, so the kids could have a different experience than just more of the same staying around the house. And, knock on wood, they didn't get sick from the exposure to others.
During Fishing Week
  • I took Felix to a local junior golf tournament. He held his own and did better than I would have done. :o)

  • We let the kids participate in the Rafters Baseball Triathlon. The kids were broken up by age groups and competed in hitting, base-running and pitching. I think Iris finished 2nd among the girls in her group, and Felix won his division.
Felix is the lone masked kid. Iris stubbornly refused.
  • Iris turned 8! She loves cats, swimming (wants to be on a swim team if they have it this fall), making messes (but not cleaning them up), and being busy. We rounded up the grandparents for a BYOEverything picnic lunch in Waupaca. 

  • Nothing much has changed for Nick or me work-wise. He's been masked when in the office and in the courtrooms. I have dealt with the attentions of my furry coworkers, but we have bonded over our interest in the birds on the bird feeders.

  • I bought a ukulele (its name is Bob Ueckerlele) and am learning how to play it. I've wanted one for a while and I figured why not now? Work meetings are better when I can practice chords when I'm on mute. To keep my brain sharp, I'm also doing a Spanish course. Yo quiero mas dormir todos los dias.
Looking ahead:
  • The kids will be starting school virtually on September 1st. We made that decision to be proactive, ensuring the kids will get a consistent education all year. We have watched as other school districts around the country open only to have an outbreak and close. We don't want to find ourselves scrambling to find someone to watch them, or have meaningless assignments (or no assignments at all) from their teachers. It's going to be challenging for all of us at times, but we felt this was the safer option. There is still much we don't know about this virus, that we'd rather continue to be cautious and reduce our risk for later health issues.
  • We will be voting. Absentee ballots already requested.
Awesome things: Umbrella Academy season 2, listening to Bob Uecker on the radio again.

Felix: 11 yrs & Iris: 8 yrs

Finally gave the blog a new look on 9/1/20. :D

Monday, July 13, 2020

Four Months In

Today marks four full months of physical distancing for us. As positive COVID-19 cases increase around us (for shame, fellow Americans), we continue to avoid any indoor congregating of people. We mask up any time we spend indoors in the presence of others. It's just not worth the risk.

That makes the idea of the kids starting the school year year up in a classroom setting so...unsettling. The school district is going to use "appropriate safety precautions," but don't specify them. Therefore, we're considering virtual school, which was never in our game plan for the kids under normal circumstances. But since there is no "normal" now, it seems our safest option.

Updates...The kids finished their school year with a whimper as the school days just ran out. The assignments ran out a bit before, so it was anticlimactic. But we tried to make the most of it.
Last Day*
*virtual school since 3/13/20
The kids started going to Y Camp daily (both are already so tan!) and Nick to the office. I'm still working from home and it had been so quiet! Except for when the work on our basement bathroom is occurring, but yay for that.
The kids dressed as villains for superhero week at camp. Yup. 

We had our first social-distancing outings around the 4th, seeing family at a cookout one evening (appropriately spaced outdoors), and seeing friends in a similar manner the following day. Nice to see people again in person.
Happy 4th!

We saw Nick's folks for the first time since March 6th. We picked up dinner, showed them the changes in our house while all masked, ate outside, and didn't hug goodbye. That's just how things go now.

Felix turned 11 yesterday! With no teammate-and/or friend-celebrations, he asked to go golfing as a family and include my parents. He also helped me make his cake: Alton Brown's jammy icebox cake.

I don't know what the future holds, but we're going to stick to isolating as much as we can until there's either a vaccine or until there is no more spread.

Awesome things: Kimmy vs. The Reverend, Eurovision Song Contest: The Story of Fire Saga, my new Nespresso machine (makes me feel like I'm in Europe since we can't go there for a while).

Anticipating Umbrella Academy season 2 and Brewers games!

Rainbows! 

At least there's one sport they can play... 

Annual 4th of July picture

Felix: 11 & Iris: 7.5

Friday, May 29, 2020

Two Months In

Day 78. Still in quarantine / social isolation / physical distancing. The Safer-At-Home order may have been overturned by the state supreme court*, but we're still at home because we feel it's the right thing to do and we are able to do it.
4.20.20
The kids are still doing virtual school, which ends next week. Felix has been doing well with it, turning files in on time and having larger projects. Keeping Iris on task remains difficult. It's been a bittersweet and bizarre end to the year, picking up the kids' stuff left at school in black garbage bags handed through the passenger seat window on our appointed day by befacemasked staff. Felix is now done with elementary school, with no real recognition of that fact. We have no idea what next year will look like when the school year begins.

Nick's been starting to spend more time at the office (which has few staff and plenty of separation distance), although he's still doing virtual court appearances for now. I've had the word passed down to me that teleworking will continue for the foreseeable future.
The cats do not mind the arrangement.
Last Wednesday was the first time I got in a car and left the WR area for the first time since March 13. Earlier this month, I got a new battery in my car that turned out to be defective. Not knowing the cause of my completely dead car, I had it towed up to Wausau. I got a ride up there to pick it up and got to go through a few work zones each way (yay, work time!). But it felt strange to be driving "so far" again.

To mitigate the building frustration of all being within the same walls for so long, we have been trying to do more stuff as a family, like having a fire (Bug, I'm on to the fact that you only want the fire to roast marshmallows...) and playing four-handed sheepshead on a nearly nightly basis (math skills!).
I've had worse hands...
This is quickly becoming the year that wasn't:

  • Baseball/softball seasons have been canceled. 
  • A cousin's wedding was postponed a year. 
  • I also postponed my 40th birthday indefinitely. ;o) I did document the day with lots of pictures to show what my life is like these days. Cassie got me the perfect pandemic-period presents: boxes of facial tissue (since the store were sold out), two homemade cloth face masks, and a plant to attract more hummingbirds to our yard.

But we do have some positive changes coming soon:

  • The kids will be at Y Camp all summer. We had wanted them to go to the new Boys & Girls Club facility in town, but registration is severely limited (and initially available only to essential workers, which is the right thing to do) and we felt the kids having more time outdoors was the healthier thing for them in multiple ways. So, Iris is now counting down the days to that.
  • We're finally (fingers crossed) going to be getting some work on the house done that was postponed in late March. I'm less excited for the construction while I'm home, but definitely ready for the results.
  • Both kids will be doing five sessions of golf lessons. We got out as a family last week and it's nice that there's at least one sport they can do that's conducive to social distancing.


Speaking of birds, being home has allowed me to keep an eye on the various feathered species that are stopping in our backyard.
I need a purple bird...
Boom.
* My thoughts on this. I remain in favor of such an order. It may have limited business (bad, I know), but it also provided expectations for social conduct. Now, there's no clear direction on how many people can gather and how "open" businesses are, and as a result, the positive cases in WI just keep growing. I admit it's made me judgmental of those who are viewing this pandemic differently than us (gathering, not wearing masks, etc.). We as a family are going to continue to distance until we feel the risk of contracting or spreading the virus are significantly reduced.

Felix: 10.5 yrs & Iris: 7.5 yrs

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